Most of the parents report that they are just fed up with their kids. They are trying again and again to raising a well-behaved kid but no results. Though this is the common scenario, you would have observed its reverse situation too.
The kids are amazingly disciplined and well-mannered. They keep their toys when the playtime gets over, they go to bed without any fuss, and even they resolve the issues with the siblings. Can you imagine that?
Fortunately, one of my friends has two such obedient children. I am just stunned to see them. And I asked my friend the secret behind it. What she said is pretty simple. We all can make it happen. You don’t need to scare them with punishments, bribe them with expensive gifts. Just clearly state what you are expecting from them. That’s it.
Of course, sometimes they quarrel with each other for minor issues or nag their parents to buy them for video games like others. They are children, after all. But that percentage is negligible. If they don’t do that, there would be no reason to consider them children. Isn’t it? But yes, most of the time, they are obedient and well-mannered. When they go far, only an angry look is enough to stop them.
The experts say, if you set expectations from them at an early stage (2-3 years), they will try to meet those expectations since they always want to please their parents. It is the natural characteristic of the kids. And teaching discipline to a young child is not a difficult task. Instead, the earlier you start, the better will be the result.
Skills Of The Problem –Solving Are Crucial To Raising A Well-Behaved kid
One of the significant reasons the children behave wrong because they don’t know to figure out any issues. Give them some tasks to solve themselves. You will notice that their behavior is changing slowly. They are learning to make decisions depending on the situation. They are not screaming every time they encounter difficulty. Instead, they are facing the challenge bravely.
Let them make decisions. Begin with trivial stuff like” Which lunch-box will you take today to the school?” or “Which chocolate do you want on your birthday?”. When they become able to decide these matters clearly, go a little further. For instance, your kids are fighting, don’t say, “This is very bad. Stop it now”. Instead, ask them, “How can you tackle this?”. Surprisingly, they will come up with a concrete solution. This will not happen overnight. But gradually, the habit will develop.
Tolerance Teaching Is Another Good Step Towards Well-Behaved Children
The children do not know to wait. They let us know what they want immediately. So, this is a crucial task for the parents to teach their kids patience. Start it at the toddler stage. Let them know how it feels to wait. If they learn this, they will not act impulsively. The doctors also suggest to let them experience the waiting phase.