Peer Pressure and How to Deal With It


We usually tend to think that peer pressure is just a problem of teenagers and everyone else is free from its influence.

But that’s not true. Most of us, including children and adults, are often influenced by it because we tend to do things what the majority of people are doing even if we have a different opinion.

According to Max-Planck-Gesellschaft, children as young as 4-years-old also feel and influenced by peer pressure.

And this can have a huge impact on your child’s development and in her early education.

Peer Pressure and How to Deal With It

According to Wikipedia, “Peer Pressure is the direct influence on people by peers or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values, and behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual.”

Influence of Peer Pressure?

Peer pressure can definitely have a good influence on your child. For example, your kid’s friend may make her read more books instead of just playing and chilling. And that’s a good thing for her early education. However, it can also be negative, as a result, can have a devastating influence on your child.

For example, some of your child’s friend may make her to never play with a certain classmate or can make her to never talk to him since they can even make your child talk to a certain classmate in a mean way.

And this is definitely not good for your child’s development.

How to Deal With the Peer Pressure on Your Child?

Your parenting plays a big role in how positive and effective your child’s schooling will be.

Moreover, you can’t control how many times your child comes under negative peer pressure. In contrast, you can definitely help your child to deal with it to stay out of negative peer pressure.

Here are some ways you can help your kid to deal with peer pressure.

1.   Establish Family Rules

If your family have clear and concise ground rules, your children are less likely to break it.

For example, if you have a set family rule about treating everyone the same without prejudice or being kind. Because children are less likely to avoid playing with someone just because their peers are asking them not to.

However, your parenting style plays a big part here. Don’t just ask your children to follow a certain rule but explain to them why the rule is important or what its moral value is.

This will help them to deal with it in the future.

2.  Teach Your Child to Think Before Responding

The early education provided by you plays a big role not only in your child’s development but also in dealing with it. Teach your kid to take a moment to think before responding to any request or question. This will give them time to figure out the possible consequences of her action.

Therefore, she will be less likely to blindly follow the pack because of it.

3.  Make Your Kids Aware of Dangerous Behavior

Don’t wait for your kids to discover possibly dangerous behavior like hurting their classmates, cut their classes, drugs, alcohol, too much aggression, etc.

After all, take the initiative and teach your children about these bad behaviors and explain them with patients why they should stay out of these.

You as a parent have a great level of influence on your children. Making them aware of these potentially dangerous behaviors will make them less likely to give in to bad peer requests.

4.  Help Your Child To Deal With Peer Pressure

Also, there are other ways to help your kids to deal with it. Some of them are:

  •  Help your child make right friends. Friends play a big role in a child’s development. When your kids are young, you have got a lot of influence on who your child will choose as their friends.

5. Teach Your Child To Say “No”!

Therefore, if one of your child’s friend regularly behaves badly with others, then it’s time to help your child move on from him.

  • Teach your child to say straight “No” whenever she encounters any inappropriate request from her peers.
  • Teach your child moral lessons about life with the right examples and storytelling. This will make her less likely to give in to it,

In the End…

Avoiding it can be tough. Although it is good sometimes if that helps your child to positively develop important life skills, it can also lead your child in the wrong way.

Your parenting plays a big role here.

Help your child to develop an independent mindset, make some firm and positive family rules, teach your child moral lessons.

This way, you can help your child to make her own independent decision and to deal with it.

PS: How else do you think we can help our child to deal with it?

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