Ask any successful person in any field about the ingredient of their success and they’ll reply disciplining being one of them. It is one of the most important habits one must incorporate in life to be successful. Discipline is the act of self-control by which one refrains from focus-shifting activities and focuses on his or her aim. Teaching your child the importance of discipline during his growth years is thus important. It is about helping your child learn how to behave appropriately and how not to behave in life during development. But discipline doesn’t always have to be punishment, self-control, and about following rules and regulation. In fact, it is much more positive and involves a lot of talking and listening.
Moreover, it is different for different development states and changes as your child grows. For example, babies can’t differentiate between good and bad behavior and hence don’t have a naughty motive. So enforcing a strict discipline habit for him won’t work. On the other hand, preschoolers have a good understanding of what’s acceptable behavior and what’s not. Therefore, you can impose some strict parenting style on them, and it may work. So if your child has some understanding between good and bad behavior, here are 10 steps for making him disciplined in life:
Tips for Disciplining Your Children:
1. Show by examples
Children during initial growth stages learn quickly by examples. So you should be letting them know of good and bad things by showing them examples and they’ll model accordingly.
2. Set boundaries
Set out clear and concise boundaries at home and at childcare of what’s expected of them and when to stop doing things. But make sure to explain the boundaries to them, preferably by showing them examples, and in an age-appropriate manner.
3. Explain consequences, but realistically
If they don’t behave as expected, then calmly explain the consequences to them. But make sure to make it realistic and follow it religiously if they break the rules. Otherwise, your child may take it for granted.
4. Listening is important too
Your child will most probably try to explain to you why he behaved the way he did. Please lend an ear to them first before making consequences.
5. Give them attention
Attention is one of the most effective discipline tools. It also reinforces good behavior and shows your child that you care and are watching them. Give them attention whenever they request or need.
6. Appreciate when they’re good
Children, when they’re in their initial learning development phase, can’t discern between good and bad behavior. Therefore, your parenting style should help them understand this concept. Just appreciate and pat in the back when you notice a good behavior.
7. Point out when they’re bad
On the flip side, through your parenting style, you should let them know when they’re not being disciplined and are breaking rules.
8. Ignore bad behaviors – sometimes
As long as it’s not dangerous and you’re giving plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring your child when he/she does something bad might be a good disciplining strategy. Ignoring them can naturally help them understand the consequences of being ignored and outcasted when done something bad.
9. Be prepared for certain situations
Practicing how to respond to certain situations might be an effective tool in reinforcing good behavior. Prepare them for upcoming activities like in child care, for example, and talk with them what’s expected of them.
10. Set penalties or time-outs
When a specific rule after being explained well is broken, you can call for a time out during which he or she is supposed to do a certain thing – study for more hours or sit in isolation.
When disciplining your child, adopting the above 10 parenting styles is crucial. It will ensure the growth and development of your child in the right way intended and will help him in the future. But if you’re still unsure about ways of disciplining your child, then you should talk with a child care specialist.